“Double Winner” Promises

1. We will no longer see ourselves as merely predators or prey.  Instead we will know ourselves to be integrated, whole, spiritual people, and we will let gratitude replace the view of ourselves as victims.

2. We will see that we are not so devastatingly complex that we cannot be understood.  We will be able to recognize what we have in common with those we fear and resent.

3. We will experience our pain and anger but refuse to build shrines to our feelings.   We will grow more respectful in the way we express our uncomfortable feelings.

4. We will forgive, and allow ourselves to be forgiven.  We will make peace with our past, and with all parts of ourselves.

5. We will no longer confuse love with sex, emotional dependency or romantic intrigue.

6. We will feel at last at home in our own bones and discover precisely how beautiful we are.

7. We will be committed not merely to stopping our behaviors, but to finding a new way to live.

8. We will connect in honesty and integrity with our HP, our sponsor, our fellow addicts, our partners, our families and those around us.  We will live transparent lives in which there are no secrets.

9. We will risk telling those truths about ourselves that cause us the most shame.  At the same time, we will develop a healthy sense of caution in our relationships.

10. Our behavior will be in integrity with values that are rooted in our spirituality.  We will find serenity and live in peace.

11. The fence between addict and co-addict will be transformed by empathy into a bridge of understanding with others.

12. Through trusting our Higher Power who transcends our addictions and co-addictions, we will learn to better trust ourselves and recognize trustworthy people.