SAA "Double Winners"

Good evening!

Welcome to the SAA "Double Winners" meeting.

My name is _______________. I am a sex addict and codependent. I am your trusted servant for this evening.  Thank You for allowing me to serve you all this evening.

The term "Double Winner" is used to describe those who struggle with both sex addiction and co-sex addiction. Many of us have experienced pain and shame as we realize that not only were we addicted to destructive sexual behavior, but also we have been in, or are in, significant relationships with other sex addicts -- be they partners, spouses, parents, children, co-workers, friends, sponsors, or others.

Although this telemeeting will focus on topics of interest to sex addicts who are struggling with co-addiction, it is an ISO-registered SAA meeting and the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of SAA will be read.  However, due to little SAA approved literature on Codependency, outside literature may be used for this portion of the meeting.

This meeting is a Mixed/Open/Double-Winners meeting. Men and women are both encouraged to attend and identify themselves as sex addicts, co-sex addicts, both or neither.

In this meeting, we admit that we are not only powerless over our own sex addiction, but we are also powerless over the sex addiction of others. We turn other sex addicts in our lives to their Higher Power, keep our focus on ourselves and our program, and mind our own business. By reducing the extent to which we allow others to affect our lives, we are better able to stay abstinent in our own SAA program -- which is the basis of our spiritual progress.

May we have a moment of silence for the sex addicts and the co-addicts in and out of these rooms who still suffer, followed by the Serenity prayer.

Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change,
The Courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.


Would someone please read the Twelve Steps of SAA from page 21 of the Green book?

Would someone please read the Twelve Traditions of SAA from page 77 of the Green Book?

Is there anyone at this meeting for the first time?        Welcome!


Now is the time that we celebrate sobriety birthdays.
Does anyone have a sobriety birthday they wish to share?

Now let us go around for introductions.
You are welcome to share your first name, where you are from, and how you are feeling.
My name is _____________. I am a sex addict and co-dependent and I feel ______.

[Transition to Reading]

(option 1)  ___________________ has offered to share a special reading.  At this time I’ll hand the meeting over to ___________________.

Thank You ______________________ for the reading tonight.

(option 2)  No one has selected a topic for tonight’s meeting.  Would anyone like to suggest a topic this evening?

***(option 3) No one has selected a topic for tonight’s meeting so I have brought the reading for tonight.  I will be reading from ­______________________

Thank You _____________________ for suggesting the topic this evening

As we open the meeting up for discussion, please remember that because members of other fellowships are welcome to attend it is the group conscience that we be careful and cautious in our sharing to not use detailed or graphic descriptions of acting out behaviors, places, experiences and please refrain from using explicit and profane language. Please keep your shares to less than 3 minutes each so that all may have an opportunity to share.

Thank You again,  _____________________, for suggesting that topic.   It is customary for the person who suggested the topic to share first.  ___________________, would you like to share first?

The meeting is now open for discussion on the topic just read or you can check in as well?

[Five minutes before the end of the hour.] 
The time for sharing has ended. If you did not get a chance to share, please contact another member or your sponsor after the meeting.

According to the 7th Tradition, every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.   We have no dues or fees, but we will mention that it is possible to make contributions to the ISO out of gratitude or become a Lifeline partner by calling: 1.800.477.8191.

Contributions can also be sent by mail to:
ISO of SAA
P.O. Box 70949
Houston, TX  SSA  77270

Or, sent via the Internet:  info@saa-recovery.org

Regarding phone numbers and e-mail:
The phone and e-mail are important tools of recovery.
Everyone is encouraged to get phone numbers and e-mail addresses of individuals whose shares they relate to -- but, as always, this is completely voluntary.


Our fifth annual face-to-face "Double Winners" meeting will be held in Albuquerque, NM on Memorial Day weekend in 2010. For convention information, please call the ISO at 800.477.8191.

Are there any other SAA or COSA-related announcements?

If you would like to contribute your information and receive e-mail and telephone numbers of others who have agreed to be contacted, send an e-mail to:  saacall@yahoo.com

A copy of this meeting script can be found at:  www.saatalk.org

Would anyone like to bring the topic for next week?

Would someone please read the "Double Winners" Promises?

"Double Winner" Promises

  1. We will no longer see ourselves as merely predators or prey. Instead we will know ourselves to be integrated, whole, spiritual people, and we will let gratitude replace the view of ourselves as victims.
  2. We will see that we are not so devastatingly complex that we cannot be understood. We will be able to recognize what we have in common with those we fear and resent.
  3. We will experience our pain and anger but refuse to build shrines to our feelings. We will grow more respectful in the way we express our uncomfortable feelings.
  4. We will forgive, and allow ourselves to be forgiven. We will make peace with our past, and with all parts of ourselves.
  5. We will no longer confuse love with sex, emotional dependency or romantic intrigue.
  6. We will feel at last at home in our own bones and discover precisely how beautiful we are.
  7. We will be committed not merely to stopping our behaviors, but to finding a new way to live.
  8. We will connect in honesty and integrity with our HP, our sponsor, our fellow addicts, our partners, our families and those around us. We will live transparent lives in which there are no secrets.
  9. We will risk telling those truths about ourselves that cause us the most shame. At the same time, we will develop a healthy sense of caution in our relationships.
  10. Our behavior will be in integrity with values that are rooted in our spirituality. We will find serenity and live in peace.
  11. The fence between addict and co-addict will be transformed by empathy into a bridge of understanding with others.
  12. Through trusting our Higher Power who transcends our addictions and co-addictions, we will learn to better trust ourselves and recognize trustworthy people.

In closing, please help us move from shame to grace and join us in the Unity Prayer, page 45 from the booklet, "Tools of Recovery."


Unity Prayer

I put my hand in yours and together we can do what we could never do along.
No longer is there a sense of hopelessness.
No longer must we each depend upon our own unsteady will power.
We are all together now, reaching out our hands for a power and strength greater than ours.
And, as we join hands,
We find love and understanding
Beyond our wildest dreams.

The formal part of the meeting has now come to a close.  Before we move on to the business meeting (which is held on the Last Wednesday of each month) I”d like to ask if there are any new comers who would like to ask questions at this time.

[It is customary for this meeting to hold a business meeting on the Last Wednesday of the month. ]

The meeting is now open for fellowship.  This is a Great time for any newcomers to ask questions about SAA and recovery in general.  The new person is the most important person in the room and we are here to help you on your journey.